Unscrambling psychotherapy: Myths and truths about psychotherapy. Is psychotherapy suitable for me?

Post written by Heartscape Psychology Intern, Charmaine Chia

What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy is an evidence-based treatment that is grounded in theory and skill-based dialogue (conversations). It comprises varying methodologies and techniques designed to help those suffering from mental illness and/or emotional turmoil. These methods include cognitive-behavioral therapy, schema therapy, solution-focused therapy, and group therapy. In today's world, where mental health awareness and outreach programs are on the rise, seeking therapy is becoming increasingly normalized.

However, despite the growing understanding of mental health, there's a significant gap in people seeking help. A cross-sectional epidemiological household survey among Singapore residents aged 18 and above, conducted between 2016 and 2018, revealed that only a minority of individuals with conditions like Major Depressive Disorder and Bipolar Disorder sought assistance from mental health professionals. (Shafie et al., 2021). On a more optimistic note, research by the American Psychological Association indicates that a majority of those who do engage in therapy experience significant symptom relief. This underscores the potential benefits of therapy for individuals with existing mental health symptoms.

Yet, persistent stigmas surrounding mental health can lead to common misconceptions about therapy. For instance, the belief that therapy is exclusively for those with diagnosed mental health conditions or the assumption that it would not be beneficial for one's well-being. These misconceptions, unfortunately, deter those who could truly benefit from therapy. Let's start by debunking some of these prevalent myths and misconceptions about therapy.

Myths debunked about therapy

Myth 1: Therapy is a waste of time. It is just talking and nothing else. The Therapist will sit and nod along to my problems.

Truth: It's natural for therapists to nod in response to clients' statements, though they're mindful of not overdoing it to avoid making clients uncomfortable. Sometimes, silence is essential, creating the space for clients to process their emotions. However, therapists understand that therapy is more than just talk. Contrary to the stereotypical movie portrayal of therapists merely nodding along, in reality, therapists adapt their approach. They might ask thought-provoking questions, encouraging clients to consider fresh perspectives.

Therapists also collaborate with clients, devising strategies to address challenging behaviours or thought patterns. They teach essential skills such as communication and engage in role-playing exercises when necessary.

Moreover, therapy is highly individualized. Clients can openly discuss their preferences with their therapists. If talking about problems feels uncomfortable, clients can work with their therapists to create action plans, tailored to their specific needs. Therapists are there to support clients in whichever way is most effective and comfortable for them.

Myth 2: My therapist will judge me, if I sound stupid, or if I share weird stuff about myself. What if I tell my therapist that I developed feelings for my teacher? What if I tell her about my weird habit of washing my hands 20 times a day before I leave the house? What if I tell her about my fears of talking to strangers?

Truth: Therapists create a non-judgmental space where clients can freely express themselves. If you ever sense judgment from your therapist, it likely reflects their own unresolved issues rather than anything you have shared. Even if their expressions shift during deep discussions, it could indicate empathy for your experiences, especially if they involve unjust situations. Rest assured, they value your perspective and are open to your thoughts, never hesitating to explore them further.

Myth 3: Coming to therapy will solve all my problems. My therapist will provide me with all the solutions.

Truth: It's common for people to misunderstand the role of therapists, thinking they're there to solve all their problems. In truth, your therapist isn't the one living your life; you are. Who could possibly know you better than yourself? You are your own experts of your own life, not your therapist.

Therapy marks the initial step in seizing control of your life. Your therapist will gently guide you, reminding you of your core values and encouraging deeper introspection. However, they would not hand you all the answers; instead, they will accompany you on your quest to discover them. Growth often necessitates occasional support and encouragement, empowering you to find the answers within yourself. In this journey, you will never feel isolated; you will gain a profound understanding of your challenges.

Following a therapy session, you might sense newfound strength to face life's obstacles. With your therapist's nudges and challenges, you'll find the courage to tackle whatever comes your way.

How do I know if therapy is right for me?

After dispelling common misconceptions about therapy, you might find yourself curious about its potential benefits. Even if you don't currently experience mental health issues, you may wonder if therapy could be beneficial for you. Here are some indicators to consider when assessing if therapy could be suitable for you:

• If you have a desire to explore and grow, learning more about yourself.

• If you have unresolved emotions, feelings, or thoughts that you're hesitant to explore alone.

• If you're interested in developing emotional regulation skills or improving your social skills.

• If you struggle with problematic behaviours that you find challenging to overcome.

Feel free to connect with our team at Heartscape Psychology via email at admin@heartscapepsychology.com to explore more about our diverse therapy approaches, empowering you to make a well-informed decision about the therapy that best suits your needs. Heartscape Psychology provides a safe and supportive environment for you to experiment, learn, and ultimately grow into a better version of yourself. Take that initial step into therapy and embrace the journey of discovering new facets of your being.

References

What is psychotherapy?. Psychiatry.org - What is Psychotherapy? (n.d.). https://www.psychiatry.org/patientsfamilies/psychotherapy#:~:text=Psychotherapy%20has%20been%20shown%20to,problems%2C%20and%20increased%20work%20satisfaction

Shafie, S., Subramaniam, M., Abdin, E., Vaingankar, J. A., Sambasivam, R., Zhang, Y., Shahwan, S., Chang, S., Jeyagurunathan, A., & Chong, S. A. (2021, July). Help-seeking patterns among the general population in Singapore: Results from the Singapore Mental Health Study 2016. Administration and policy in mental health. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8192323/